Why make new years resolutions

Why Make New Years Resolutions We Can’t Keep?

New year is upon us once again and many of us are going to make resolutions! You might be asking yourself why make new years resolutions again this year, if I fail like usually? My article will help you to make a promise which you are able to keep and be on your way to self-improvement!

The year is ending and most of us are making resolutions for different reasons. I will take you through the process and let you into the secret of my own resolution. I would also love to hear yours, so be sure to leave me a comment!

Reasons To Make Resolutions

Why should you make a resolution you might ask? There are many reasons to do so, you might have  completely different personal ones, but I will introduce you to the most common reasons people state.

Custom

It’s a tradition in many places around the word to make a promise on new year. It’s mostly due to the fact that when the year is drawing to the end, we often take some time to reflect our lives.

Of course it would be possible to do this at any time of the year, unfortunately a lot of people miss the drive for improvement as they fail to identify the deep rooted reason or need for their resolution in the first place.

The chance of the year is seen to help you leave behind the past with all its troubles and sorrows behind and start over. It can also be combined with a wish, such as hoping someone else will overcome their problems and have a great start for the new year.

Self-improvement

Many people see the new year as an opportunity to motivate themselves with something they have been struggling with the previous year, such as loosing weight or learning a new skill.

These are the most difficult resolutions to stick with and I will be talking about ways to improve your chances about succeeding in the Sticking With Your Resolutions section.

Influence

Some people make a new years resolution simply because they are inspired by someone else. For instance if your partner decides to quit smoking, you have an incredible opportunity to follow in his footsteps.

No Smoking Sign

 

It’s easier to make resolutions that are difficult to stick to together as you can support each other and follow up on each others progress. Just make sure you also commit and don’t start leading each other to temptation instead!

Pact

Many people make a resolution together with other people. For instance the whole school class commits for better results in math or a whole family decides to spend more time together.

Agreement

This kind of resolution is the easiest to succeed as you will be working together towards a success. It’s not so dependant on individual efforts, but about motivating the whole group to succeeding!

Making Your Resolutions

Sit down and reflect about your life. Is there something you would like to improve? Write down the areas of self or group improvement that come to your mind.

Next examine your reasons for making a particular decision, such as stop smoking because it will improve their health. It will help to write the reason down as well. It will work as a motivator when you need reasons to stick with your resolution!

Discussing them with others might help, as they might have ideas of which areas of your persona or life need improvement. Make sure that you are ready for honest feedback though, it might not be easy to hear what others have to say.

Once you have your ideas, consider which would give you most value at this particular time. Basically this means that you should pick one or two that you like most, trust your gut feeling on this!

Don’t be tempted to make too many promises as this will only backfire as you will get mentally exhausted and feel pressure even before you start with your goals. Don’t worry, you can safe those for the years to come!

Before your make your resolution it’s important to consider the following things that will ensure you can stick with your resolution.

Make Specific Goals

Don’t make lofty promises, such as ‘I will loose some weight next year’ or ‘I will exercise more’. Instead make a specific goal, such as ‘I will drop two dress sizes by next summer holidays’, or ‘I will exercise 3 time a week’

Exercise and diet

Making specific goals allows you to measure your success more easily and this will help to keep you motivated along the way! A good friend on mine, who goes to the same cancer clinic than me, made a resolution to try out my meditation for pain-relief program to replace his opiates.

Ensure Your Goal is Achievable

Do not define goals you know in advance you are not able to achieve as this will be demotivating. Keep them realistic enough for you to feel the urge to work towards them.

For instance promising that you will complete a marathon under 4 hours might not be the best promise to make if you spend most of your life on the couch. Instead promise to yourself to complete the couch to 5k program!

Define Steps

Make sure to define steps or check points, so you can easily follow up on your progress. Make sure the steps are not overwhelmingly difficult to obtain. If your exceed your goals, there is reason to celebrate! For instance if your resolution was a weight loss: I will loose 2kg every month.

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Sticking With Your Resolution

So you have selected your resolution, congratulation! You are on your way to improving your life! The most important thing now is to ensure you will be able to stick to your resolution and achieve your goals!

There are several techniques to ensure you won’t give up before even getting started. Lets examine them closer.

Write Down Your Goals

Write down your goals and the steps you broken your task down to. Place the paper somewhere where you can easily see it every day, as it will remind you of your promise. Keep a pen nearby, so you can tick each step after you reach it!

Some people like printing a spreadsheet style list with couple of columns, such as:

GoalLoose 10kg by summer holidaysDate
Step 1loose 2kg by 31.01
Step 1loose 2kg by 28.02

They can then fill in the date they achieved their steps or mini goals, which is extremely motivates. If you are part of a group pack, make sure you use a format, which allows both individual and group goals.

Write down your goals

Make sure that you agree among each other if everyone wants their results published, some people might feel sensitive about this, but in general it often encourages people to compete against each other.

You might even make bets or arrange a competition! Just make sure to keep it friendly, so nobody gives up because they feel like a looser.

Seek External Accountability

Make sure people know about your resolution. It’s surprisingly easy to cheat oneself, hence it’s much easier to stick to your resolution, if others know about your decision to give up smoking!

Tell your nearest and dearest, post it on social media, talk about it at work and write it down in your diary or blog. Once others know, it’s not so easy to back down on your word as you need to explain to others why you broke your promise to yourself.

Seek Support

Depending on your goal, support might be extremely important. For instance if you have decided to learn a new language next year support is not as crucial as in the case of loosing weight, stopping smoking or getting better school results!

You might ask someone close to you, partner, friend, teacher, parent or if you prefer someone who doesn’t know you personally, seek a support group on social media or forums, such as Quit Smoking Support Group of Facebook. There are plenty available for any possible self improvement topic, Google will show you the way!

Once you have your support person or a group, make sure to keep them up to date on your progress and ask them to keep on checking on your.  If you are struggling let them know!

Reward Yourself

Make sure to reward yourself in meaningful ways for each mini goal you made. If your goal was to loose weight, using food as a reward might not be the best option, but instead treat yourself to some new clothes when you reach your goals and maybe some accessories or massage or haircut along the way.

Reach your goals

Group reward might be some fun activity, such as taking the whole class ice skating or family night out in the movies or the bowling hall. Be creative and ensure everyone has their say!

Once you reach your goal, make sure your results are known. You have every reason to be proud of yourself, you have done a fantastic job,  this is your moment to shine!

Happy New Year!

FireworksSo remember when the fireworks start, you have the chance to start all over! It is up to you to learn about your mistakes and turn a new page with the experiences under our belt. Nothing lasts forever, not even bad luck or emotional rut! Happiness is just around the corner.

And if your year was a great one,  why not make the next one even greater? There is always something to improve, the human nature is searching for perfection after all. If you need inspiration, take a look at my post about What Is Positive Thinking About – Sattvic Mind

My very own goal this year is to beat my cancer! I will define my mini goals the next few weeks and write a post about it. What kind of promise are you making for the new year?

 

ॐ Love and Peace For The New Year,

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22 thoughts on “Why Make New Years Resolutions We Can’t Keep?”

  1. Hello!

    I love the article…. just wanted to stop in and drop in my two cents! My wife and I are those types that want to wait until the New Year to change something about our lives that we do not like. Usually, we fail but at least we gave it an attempt!

    I’m not sure why we have to wait, I guess it is just procrastination 🙂

    I work for a food distribution warehouse and as the season changes into the New Year you can see how the food demand changes so frequently from turkey and pies in November to health and diet foods like the popular Adkins diet food product line and the Healthy Choice product line. That’s how it is in the United States anyways. I’m sure it varies across the world.

    Great article

    Cheers

    1. Hi David, I am happy you enjoyed my article! You are not the only ones, many people see the year chance as a chance to start all over and wait to make promises until then, the idea being that you enjoy what ever time before committing to a certain promise. If you think about it, this is not really an ideal approach!
      Yes, it is indeed typical that people try to over compensate for the indulgent they have made during the holidays by starting the new year with a diet. Unfortunately it normally only last for few months or weeks due to the reason I explain in my article.

  2. Solid advice. I honestly quit doing resolutions because I realized I make them just to break them. Now I just try and focus being all around better year round.

    1. Hi Nicki, many people quit making resolutions because of this, this is my point and why I tell people how to make them stick…

  3. I simply love this article, thank you for it! I for one have always traditionally made a resolution, but actually never managed to stick with it beyond the first two months. Now I actually understand why, my goals have always been way too ambitious and also extremely non measurable.
    After giving birth to my second baby, I absolutely need to be losing weight. Last time it was easy to lose but this time it hasn’t shifted and my baby is almost a year old.
    So I will commit myself to losing 20kg this year and have joined both a gym and a website called http://www.weightlossresources.co.uk which I have used before successfully. It will give me some external accountability!

    1. Hi Diana,

      When we make goals it’s important to take steps in order to ensure we stay on track. Otherwise it’s all too easy to give up after few weeks when life’s challenges catch up on us.

      You have taken great steps by making your goals easily measurable and making our weight loss journey externally accountable by joining a website. Additionally the other members will be able to encourage you!

      Your plan for weight loss sounds excellent. Both exercise and diet are equally important when we want to shed unwanted pounds.

  4. Things like this take discipline and determination. Some time in 2016 my husband and I set goals for ourselves and we promised to look into them every month if we’re achieving them. It’s good to have someone, a friend or family member, to support you on goals too! Makes it more fun!

    1. Very true! Goals are much more effective when you make yourself externally accountable and have check points and setup some rewards. 🙂

  5. Thanks for posting although I would not call this a resolution because I keep reminding g myself to be more productive everyday. But this article explains: and very well I might ad. Why people do make resolution.

    1. Hi Maurice, I am happy my article gave you inside into why people make resolutions. It’s always easier to make a promise with a specific goal in mind!

  6. I like this post! I tend to make resolutions some years, but not every year. I tend to make ones I know I will keep. But I like your ideas of getting external accountability and setting goals for the resolutions. A few more steps to assure that I achieve them!

    1. Hi there 🙂 I am happy you tend to make promises that you know are achievable, that’s shows you know yourself well, which is always a good sign. External accountability and goals are great helpers to ensure success, hope you find a way to implement them!

  7. While I’ve never been big on “celebration” at the turn of a New Year, it is a very natural time for reflection and for looking ahead. I’ve been doing a lot of that this week, imagining where I wish to be a year or more from now and what I’ll need to be doing (or not doing) to get there. I think what a lot of people are missing is their “why” behind their proposed change, and the idea that so many of us try to avoid doing something or try to stop doing something as opposed to moving TOWARD something new (i.e., focusing on adding good fits to your diet and putting attention to experiencing better health and increased vitality rather than trying NOT to eat junk food or focusing on avoiding certain things). Whatever way change comes about, I encourage people to know themselves and do what’s right for them, a the turn of the New Year, or middle of July or whenever it’s the right time. One of the biggest lifestyle changes I made in the last couple of years (ditching alcohol for good) was made at the end of June in 2015. Now, I originally started trying at the start of that year (a resolution) and made it through the end of January before slipping up. It was summer before it stuck. But when it stuck, it stuck for good.
    Wishing anyone who has the courage to step out and embrace change all the best of luck and success!
    Best wishes,
    Kevin

    1. Hi Kevin, Thank you for your insightful comment! I love your idea of visualisation, it certainly works well as a strong motivator for the people who know how to benefit from it. It’s also a good point in realising the reason behind the resolution is very important. Every time we fail, we should make sure to think about why we made the promise in the first place, to improve our health, to improve our relationship with loved one etc. I call this keeping your goal in mind.
      It is of course true you can make a resolution at any time of the year, not only at the beginning of the new year. It is only because people traditionally take the time to reflect their achievements of the previous year in the last days of the year, that they will get the inspiration to go forward.
      Good luck with achieving your goals for 2017!

  8. Hi Hannah, great tips in this post for successful goal setting. I wish you all the best with your goal to beat cancer. Every year I set goals at the beginning of the year and this year I’m going to lose 15 kg. I prefer calling them goals because once it’s no longer a new year (in Feb or March) people forget about new year resolutions. The way I keep myself accountable is by telling other people like my wife and my parents and also by taking photos to keep track of the changes. I find if I have a strong enough reason (why) the how is simple (not necessarily easy) , but the reason is what keeps me disciplined to do what I know I need to do. I like what you said about rewarding yourself, I don’t normally do that, but that’s a good idea. Thank you, all the best

    1. Hi Diego, I am happy you enjoyed my article and found my tips useful! Losing a specific amount of weight is a great idea, good luck with achieving your goal. External accountability will certainly help, as does a strong reason, such as health issues or benefits. I know a of people get motivated by the photos, as they clearly show the progress, thank you for reminding me, maybe I should update my article about that! Go ahead and reward yourself when you reach each and one of your mini goals, it will help to keep you motivated 🙂

  9. Hi again,

    I kinda like the idea of New Year resolutions but I only ever make ones that I know are achievable. I try not to set my expectations too high in case I let myself down.

    However, I like your idea of letting everyone know what your resolutions are. That puts a bit of pressure or onus on you to try and achieve them otherwise people will know that you have failed I suppose. It’s important to write down some goals too, good idea.

    We’re a funny lot on Earth. We have these strange traditions that we just seem to follow. I wish you well in beating cancer, I will be praying for you.

    My goals for the new year are to cut back on my socializing and focus more on building my business. I’d like to lose weight too but if I can do #1 above then that would also help with losing a few pounds.

    I always try to take positives out of any negatives. I admire your style and the sattvic mind.

    1. Hi Craig, I am happy to hear that you are also a fan of new years resolutions! It’s important to ensure that our goals are achievable, otherwise we will get demotivated in the process.
      External accountability helps us to stick with resolutions when life gets in the way or our commitment to achieving our goals. What comes to traditions, I believe they are important, they give us a sense of belonging!
      That’s a really great goal and I wish you great success in building your business. You will make it for sure and I have no doubt in my mind you will also loose the unwanted pound, maybe my suggestions will help you to succeed!
      I am for sure planning on beating my cancer, making a plan as we speak, will be writing about it in few days.

  10. Most people make resolutions that are so vague it’s no wonder they give up on them a couple of weeks in. Especially if it’s a goal to lose weight. People just end up joining a gym or starting a diet program with no real goal in mind. It’s just another thing to do or buy that makes them feel good, but doesn’t get to the real life changing habit. Great article showing people exactly how to take those steps and finally make progress! I’m going to implement some of them myself!

    1. Hi Linda, I am happy I was able to inspire you! Most people setting lifty goals give up after few weeks or months because they don’t have the ability to measure their success, which leads to demotivation.
      Loosing weight and quitting smoking are the most common New Years resolutions today and the reason people fail are mostly fague goals and lack of seeking both accountability and support!

  11. Some excellent advice and detailed steps to keep those resolutions! A lot of people say that New Years Resolutions are useless, but I think it’s an excellent and productive way to set goals and achievable objectives.

    Great tips, they inspired me!!

    1. Hi Andrea! Thank you for leaving a comment 🙂
      I believe that resolutions are useful if made with great care and consideration. Having goals in life makes it easier to succeed!

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