What Is The Definition Of a True Friendship

What Is The Definition Of a True Friendship?

Have you ever reflected what is the definition of a true friendship? To find the answer, all we need to do is to look at the people we have shared a part of our journey with. This story is dedicated to all my friends, may they find as much happiness in life, as they have brought into mine.


Hands Forming a Heart

“A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow.”

― William Shakespeare


Childhood Friends

I knew you as a child, you were my best friend. Nothing could tear us apart. We got in trouble together and we climbed trees together.  You cover up for me and I told white lies in your defence.

We started school together, learned to swim and went on summer camps. Over the year we lost the touch, one of us moved away and the other stayed.

We lost touch, but when we get together by faith, it’s like the distance and time apart never happen. We still love each other as much as all those years ago.


Young Friends

You shared all my dreams when I grew up, you shared my growing pains in those years when I turned from a little girl to a woman. We supported each other through the heartaches of the first love.

You knew how I was looking for my place in this world and you helped me to find where I belonged. I thought you how to put up your hair and you were the first one to put lipstick on my lips.


Travel Buddies

I met you some where for few fleeting days. We met on top of mountain, in the desert, in the jungle, on cattle class in a plane, deck of a ship, at the train platform.

We talked about everything and nothing. We shared food, drinks, the little money we had, pictures, diaries, hotel rooms, cabins and cold ground in front of the blazing fire.

We instantly felt an attraction towards each other, we knew we were two parts of the same story, we were soul mates. Our paths separated as we were both vagabonds and we never met again, but we stayed in each others hearts.


Coffee Break

We worked together on a project on in the same team. Or maybe I was your superior or you mine? Our friendship started out with frustrations regarding to customers, managers, work loads and trying to balance our lives with work pressure!

We sat together in the coffee room, sometimes in silence, just happy for a moment of peace, sometimes excited to tell something about kids or success with our careers.

We traveled together to expos, conferences and customers, stealing a moment here and there to do some sightseeing and shopping. In the evening we joined forces to enjoy local entertainment and cuisine.


Social Media

I met you online and I never have never seen you face to face,  but you know so much about me and I you. I watched your children grow up and you saw me find happiness.

You have shared my joys and I celebrated your life. I have cried bitter tears for you and you have comforted me in me sorrows and given me support when I felt nobody else cared.



Family Of Monkeys

We were born into the same family.  You were my sister, my brother, mother, father, grandmother, aunt, uncle, cousin, my child. I didn’t have a choice in the matter and nor did you, not that we would have wanted it any other way.

We became friends because we spent all that time together. We fought, we hated, we loved and we shared. We chose each other over and over every single day. It was us, standing together against the world and it still is.



 One day you showed up in my life. It was faith and knew instantly I could never again let you go. You instantly became part of my life and me yours. We keep in touch, if not every day but as often as we can.

We write, we call, we visit and we enjoy each others company. We do things together or just sit next to each other without saying a word. You are the one I run to when I need to share my joy and your are my strength when I need a shoulder to cry on.



I made you up! Yup, you are my imaginary friend, who only exist in my head. I have known you all my life! You are my very best friend.

I tell you all my secrets, the ones I dare trust nobody else! You always listen, never complain or judge, instead you always give me great advice 😉

You might be like me


You might be my exact opposite


We might be crazy together


You might balance me out


But I want you to know that I love you


I am happy for the day you walked into my life

Thank you for being part of my journey!

Want to  know more about a friendships? Here you can read my story of a friendship with a four legged kind!

Love and Peace,


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30 thoughts on “What Is The Definition Of a True Friendship?”

  1. Hello Hanna

    I might have many friends all over the world. When I have fun and am okey they are with me, but when I´m unhappy and have troubles they go away. Only some of my friends stay next to me when it is hard. I know that those ones are my real friends. I love them and be happy to have them as a friend of mine. They are a part of me and my life.

    Your article of a friendship is touching and your way to write is very iteresting. Thanks for that.

    loving Inka

    1. Hi Inka,
      I am happy you enjoyed my article, I enjoyed writing this light prose piece very much as it is my own representation of friendship. True friendships doesn’t care about distance or time. When we face difficulties, we will soon realize who our real friends are, as they won’t shy away, but listen and help out any way they can according to their means and time available.

  2. I loved reading this post! It brought back all the memories of friendships I have had over the years. Some still going strong, others I haven’t made contact with for a while. After reading this post, it has made me feel like connecting with some old friendships to catch up on what everyone has been up to over the years.

    I think that friendships have a part in making us who we are. What do you think?

    Thanks again. A very enjoyable read.

    1. Hi Andrew, thank you for your insightful comment! I am happy you have gotten the sudden urge to contact some friends. I am sure they will be really happy to hear from you and it will be great to catch up with them after a long time 🙂
      Absolutely, strong friendships, especially the once we form in our childhood are important factors of forming us into who we become. I think this is why the parents are always worries about their children hanging around with the wrong crowd!

  3. Absolutely love this!! I could relate to so many of the scenarios.
    Being born and raised in Sweden, but moved across half the world. When I go back and run into an old friend, well you nailed it here…

    We lost touch, but when we get together by faith, it’s like the distance and time apart never happen. We still love each other as much as all those years ago.

    Thank you!

    1. Hi Vicky! Thank you for your lovely comment, I am happy you enjoyed my post 🙂 Interesting you come from Sweden, I am originally from the neighboring country Finland!
      Meeting old friends is truly wonderful. I always look forward to going back home and visiting them all, there is something almost magical about it.

  4. Hi Mira,

    Thank you for writing this piece. It is truly poetic and inspiring at the same time. I think in today’s society some of us forget those we hold dear in our lives when we engage so much in ourselves.

    Those true friendships are difficult to find even if they are siblings or our parents. Keeping a hold of someone is more difficult for me than most other challenges I endure.

    My actions may speak loud when a friend is in need of a helping hand. Humans though are independent creatures and want little to no help for fear of the inferior feeling.

    Maybe a true friend just shows up to say hi with a smile and a hug and not just to give a helping hand!

    1. Hi David, thank you for your compliment. Yeah, it did become prose, although that was originally not my idea 🙂 I think friendships are so important and yet so unique to all of us. Some of us need more friends and time with our friends than others, but nobody is truly alone. There is always someone who cares and is willing to help, if we only want to accept the hand they are reaching out!

  5. What an incredibly touching article! So heartfelt and sincere. I love your writing, it touches my heart deeper and deeper every time I read one of your posts! Beauty-full. From my heart to yours, my dear friend, Namaste. Joy

    1. Thank you very much Joy 🙂 You are one of those people who have touched me deeply, even though I have never met you in person. Just shows the power of social media in finding true friends!

  6. Hi Mira,

    Thanks for a wonderful post. It’s got me thinking about some of my dear friends I haven’t seen for some time, so I’ll drop them a line tonight.

    But I have some wonderful friends from all walks of life; some have been long time friends, some I’ve only just met.

    But the qualities that are important to me in any friendship are:
    Honesty, Trust, Kindness, Love and Supportive.

    I value all my friends 🙂

    1. Hello Gaylene! Nice of you to leave me a message, I am happy you enjoyed my post 🙂 It’s really great to get in touch with old friends, they are so important part of our lives!
      I absolutely agree with all those qualities, sounds like you have wonderful friends! It has never mattered to me how long you have known someone, only things that matter to me is the compatibility of the souls!

  7. Very nicely written. You know it doesn’t matter how it happened, a friendship is a true friendship when it endures. Over the miles, over the years, and even when you don’t get to talk or see the other person. You know they are there for you as you are there for them <3

    1. Hi Kathy, nice of you to drop by!
      Very true, friendship knows no borders, no race, no distance, no time…you are just there for each other and that’s all that matters! Sounds like you have wonderful friends, keep them close!

  8. This is so insightful and so beautiful, my virtual friend. It brought a tear to my eye, a smile to my face and warmth to my heart; I shall be sharing it widely to show my appreciation for the many wonderful people who have touched / continued to touch my life… We have a tendency to assume that one person – a ‘best’ friend or a lover, perhaps – should fulfil all our wants and needs and desires. Your blog, wisely and generously and truthfully, acknowledges the value of friendship in all its forms.

    1. Thank you so much for your wonderful words Denise, they brought a tear to mine! Indeed my post was a written as a thank for all my friends for their part in my life!
      You are one of those people who I have never met in real life, but who has become part of my life over Facebook.

  9. Yes, how many friends does one really have. My wife tells me all the time that I’m her best friend. I always respond with “You’re my only friend”.
    I recently got in touch with a childhood friend after 35 years, it was wonderful, he thanked me so much for looking him up and not forgetting him.
    I looked at him and said “I could never forget you we grew up together”
    Tears are coming to my eyes just typing this out. I am way overtired, lol.
    Thank you for a truly inspiring and well written post. All the best to you.

    1. Hi Peter, thank you for leaving your heartfelt comment! If we are lucky to marry a soul mate, our spouse often becomes our truly best friend! But there is something very special about the friendships we form in the years when we grow up, it creates an unbreakable bond, which is still there decades later!

  10. I have to really say that this is very touching and can relate to every person in some way. It is even a lesson on helping someone to try to find themselves if they seem the world is caving in on them. Most people just don’t know how finding their inner self can help them out of the most difficult problems. I have to say I can relate to some of these within many times of my life. Great site and keep up this work…

    1. Hi Angel! Thank you for taking the time to leave you lovely comment.
      Friendships can truly give us so much and teach a lot of things about ourselves too!
      Thank you for compliment, I am intending to continue 🙂

  11. Wow what a wonderful post – I really needed to read something like this today as my week has slowly dissolved around me!
    I found many of your passages close to my heart – I was lucky enough to grow up in a small fishing village so my friends are friends I’ve had since I was a baby.
    We’ve never lost contact even though we are spread out all over the world. Every Christmas we meet up over a two week period to catch up!
    Like you say – it’s as if we’ve never been apart!
    Wonderful article subject – I hope a lot of your visitors enjoy this as much as I did

    1. Hi Chris, thank you very much for your comment. I am happy it made you think of your childhood and those valuable first friendships. Nobody will ever know you as well, as the people who grew up with you!
      I myself grew up in a small place as well and although we only normally meet couple of times a year, social media is making it easier to keep in touch throughout the year.

  12. To me, the joy of friendship is giving, to be there when your friend needs you and watching them grow. In true friendship one thinks of the other, not if oneself.

    1. Hi Laurence, thank you very much for taking the time to leave a comment. You are one of those people who give their all for the friendship, something which makes you a very rare and beautiful human being. When ever someone is in need, you are there to offer consolidation and cheer them up. Thank you for your friendship!

  13. Hanna, this is a truly wonderful post and the picture couldn’t be sweeter either. Where do you find those wonderful shots, are they all yours?

    You have friends from everywhere around the world with so many backgrounds and cultures, but I think they all can understand your message. Friendship, just like love is a universal language, thank you for sharing your friendship with us all!

    1. Hi Diana and thank you! Some are mine, some borrowed from friends and others from free picture service called Pexels. As a general rule, the featured image on the top is my own!
      Yes, friendship really is universal language! Just like love, it’s what makes the world spin around 🙂 Thank you for your friendship!

  14. I have met all of my friends in one of the scenarios describe in “The Definition of a True Friendship”. One common thread that runs through them all is the instant recognition of soul mates. These are the people that become our friends. These are our pearls of friendships.

    I only met you once, but got to know you through your husband and Facebook. I have been blessed to be able to call you my friend. I love your new blog “ArtbyHeart” and will be following it regularly!



    1. Namaste Lauren! Thank you for dropping by and leaving me a comment 🙂 It’s been so long since we met, when me and Wouter were working in US, time truly flies! You are absolutely right, you meet people and you know instantly they are your soul mates. No distance or time can break a true friendship apart!
      I am very happy you enjoy my blog, it is my way of sharing my life lessons, both good and bad, with the world.

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