How To Deal With Depression During Holidays

How To Deal With Depression During Holidays Naturally

Holidays are stressful time even for the ones who’s life is on the perfect track. For the ones, who are suffering from depression, this time of love and happiness is often associate with anxiety and even suicidal thoughts. My article will introduce you into how to deal with depression during holidays using natural methods and techniques. It is dedicated to a friend of mine who suffered from cancer. He passed away 2 years ago on a Christmas Eve to an overdose of painkillers. Nobody knew about his depression and we were therefore unable to help him.

Have you ever felt the anxiety of being in a room full of loved ones happily celebrated and felt completely alone, not being able to catch the festive mood? Let me assure you, you are not alone! Holiday blues is very common!

Or maybe you have just lost a loved one and are facing your first Christmas without this special person. Or maybe this person past away around the holidays, or maybe she or he was essential part of the holiday season and it’s traditions.

You might be facing celebrations alone, having no relatives or friends to share this special time with. Maybe you live far away from your family or you are older and your loved ones have passed away?

My article will teach you 5 powerful ways to learn how to cope with depression during the holiday season. You might try all of them or just pick few, which you find most useful based on my description. However I suggest you give them all some thought for lifting the holiday blues!

1.Exercise and Fresh Air

Going out and doing some exercise, has a wonder effect on lifting the depression. I realize it’s hard to get going, when all you feel like doing is staying in bed all day, but you need to get out!

Exercise produces endorphines, the feel good hormone, in our brain and this feel good hormone will lift the depression in no time. If you are not in a good physical condition, start with walks or perhaps cycling.

Being out and breathing some fresh air also has a wonderful effect in lifting the brain fog, which depression often causes. Therefore I suggest getting out for your exercise session instead of hitting the gym or practicing your sport at home.


Beautiful nature also aids making us feel better, by stimulating our brains visually. Go or a walk in a forest, by the sea shore or a mountain. Find out a beautiful spot somewhere nearby and take a day trip to enjoy the scenery.

Take up yoga! Yoga is a great gentle exercise that teaches the connection of body and mind. You can read my personal recommendations how to get started here:

Starting Yoga Practice – Beginners Guide

You can also read about the benefits of simply doing sun salutations daily in my article:

The Benefits Of Surya Namaska – Yoga Healing

Warrior II Pose

2.Power of Massage

Massage can help to clear depression! Good massage helps to drain the body of toxins and at the same time it also relaxes both the body and the mind, promoting good general health.

You can book a massage, depending on your location and what’s available near to you, consider an Ayurvedic oil massage. They help to strengthen your immune system, help to overcome fatigue and insomnia, which often are caused of depression!


Ayurvedic massage

If you are unable to find a good massage place nearby, there are several self-massage techniques to be performed on various body parts such as face and feet with good massage oil, that can help you to experience the benefits.

I myself love Kansa Wands for the almost magical effect on reliefind depression, due to the healing combination of the kansa metal and the wonderful technique which helps to sooth sore muscles and revive the skin. You can read my review here:

Kansa Wand Reviews – Too Good To Be True

The article also highlights the best tools, the training materials and the oil to be used with this powerful self-massage technique!

3.Meditation and Deep Relaxation

Meditation and deep relaxation are both great ways of clearing up the skies. They will teach you techniques to relax your mind and get better sleep, as depression often causes sleep deprivation as we cannot let go of our depressive thoughts in order to relax and fall asleep.

Meditation has also a lot of other health benefits, it helps to reduce stress and anxiety, which often are related to depression. Read more about 10 Benefits From Mediation – Ready To Make A Change

Here is my very own deep relaxation meditation. It will take you to the depths of the ocean and join a dive with the blue whales!

If you want to read more about this meditation, please read:

The Guided Deep Relaxation Meditation

it will demonstrate you the correct pose for this meditation and also give you some back ground information on this technique and it’s benefits.

4.Aroma Therapy

Aroma therapy is a very powerful way of relieving depression.  The essential oils have a subtle, yet extremely powerful influence on our mind and body via our sense of smell.


Aroma therapy can be enjoyed in many different forms, four most commonly know, all with wonderful benefits, are:

  1. Aroma therapy massage – you or a therapist use a massage oil mixed with essential oils to massage various parts of your body. Most common treatments concentrate on the face and the back.
  2. Aroma therapy candles – Make sure to select one with a natural scent as a lot of the scented candles are not produced with essential oils. Safe bets are scents of spices and citrus. As an additional benefit, candles also help to create a relaxing atmosphere.
  3. Aroma therapy bath – a very effective way to let the essential oils to seep into your body via your skin.
  4. Aroma therapy inhalation – three main techniques are used to release the scent of he oils in to the air:
    1. Burner – a candle is used to apply heat to a ceramic dish which contains a mixture of water and essential oil, releasing the scent into the air.
    2. Infuser – mixes water and essential oil and releases it into the air with water vapor, changing the atmosphere of your home.
    3. Inhaling infuser – uses the same strategy as normal infuser, but contains a part where you enter your face and inhale the water vapor intensively for a certain amount of time. This also doubles as a facial sauna and gives you the relaxing benefit of the heat.
    4. Diffuser – speads the aroma into the air. Read about the best aromatherapy diffusers here: What Is The Best Aromatherapy Diffuser Like?

Aroma Bath

I can wholeheartedly recommend this as we humans often associate certain scents with memories. Remember the scent of Christmas from your childhood? Smell of food and freshly baked cookies or mulled wine? The tree, when it was first brought into the house?

Find some memory about a scent that makes you happy and then search for something with that particular odor. You will not even realize how fast it will lift your moods!

Read more about aromatherapy in my article:

Aromatherapy and Essential Oils

Dinner table

5.Choose Happiness

This might sounds like a strange advice to someone who is suffering from depression! However what we must realize is the fact that dwelling in our misery will only serve to make things worse.

Cozy up in front of a fire with a good book or take a relaxing bath! Pamper yourself to a facial treatment or manicure.



There are several positive thinking techniques to learn to deal with negativity and turn things around even during the darkest times. I have a separate article that deals with the fact that happiness really is a choice we must do every day.

I tell my own personal story, how my cancer treatments, combined with a lot of bad luck, got me down to a very dark place and how I was able to overcome it:

What Is Positive Thinking About – Sattvic Mind

My Loving Advice

Spending time with rejoicing family and friends can sounds a chore to someone who is suffering from depression, but by surrounding yourself with people who love you, can help you feel better.

Open up to someone you trust and let them know about your problems, do not suffer in silence. If you feel you cannot talk to someone you know well, which can perhaps feel intimidating, there are several phone lines and centers setup for the holiday season.

Phone Call

If you are alone during the holidays, there are places where you go attend celebrations together with others in the same situation.  The intention is to bring people together not only for the special occasions, but to form friendships that will help you on the long term.

As these are local, I cannot give you a particular service, you you can easily look them up online or in your local news paper. These services are strictly confidential and free, often staffed by volunteers who have been suffering from depression one time in their lives themselves, so they will easily be able to relate to your story.

I hope you follow me advice, because if you do, I guarantee you will get through the holiday season without anxiety and stress which will only deepen your depression.

I would love you hear the thoughts of everyone who either themselves are suffering from depression or know someone who is. I am here for you in case you need someone to talk to! I have been down that road myself many times and will happily share my experiences in overcoming the dark clouds.


Comforting Hug

Sending You All A Comforting Hug and Love,


Aromatherapy Infuser

P.S. If you want to lift your moods fast, take a look at the Ayurveda aroma experience 

It’s my family’s favorite way to enjoy the benefits of aroma therapy in my home.

38 thoughts on “How To Deal With Depression During Holidays Naturally”

  1. I like what you guys are up to, I found your story on Pinterest. I for one am someone who suffers from holiday blues and since Easter holidays are approaching, we will have family visiting and I know it will hit me again. It’s the social anxiety to be among a lot of people, even they are my family that does it for me.
    I tend to go for long bike rides and limit family time for dinners and few other social obligations forced on me.

    1. Hi Seppo, being outside in fresh air, combined with exercise will help you to produce feel good hormones, which in turn will help with both depression and anxiety. Limiting activities that cause you social anxiety is a good idea. I hope you have some to talk to about your problems, it will help. Let me know if I can be of any help.

  2. This article is like written to me. I always get really emotional during the holidays, let it be Christmas or Easter, because everyone is gathering in our house and talk to me. I just want to hide away from all the attention and buzz. Spending time outside helps, I often go for really long walks with my dog by the seaside, especially windy days are good.

    1. Hi Nana, let me assure you are not alone. Many people feel social pressure during holidays and suffer from anxieties before, during and after holidays. They find it difficult to get into the mood of celebrating, when they are surrounded with large amount of people. Going outside for a walk with a is a really good idea. You get fresh air, exercise and also a companion of someone who is loving you unconditionally.

  3. I think this article is very helpful in teaching how to deal with depressions during holidays using natural methods. I always get anxious and down during Christmas since my best friend passed away from cancer few days before before Christmas eve. I get a lot of fresh air, it seems to help, but I will try some of your other suggestions as well. Thank you.

    1. Hi Eddy,
      you are welcome. Death of a loved one before, during or after holidays is a typical cause for the holiday blues. I hope you will benefit from my suggestions, let me know if I can help in any way.

  4. I saw this article featured in a health magazine and think it’s absolutely wonderful. It’s difficult to get people to take holiday blue seriously, but it effects so many people. Every year thousands of people commit suicide during the holidays due to depression. Your suggestions are really great, will surely help many.

    1. Hi Ramada,
      thank you very much, I am happy you found my article valuable. You are right when it comes to suicides, holidays are the worst time for people who suffer from depression and holiday blues can overcome the cheeriest of people.

  5. I loved this article Mira, thank you for reminding me getting active is a good way to beat the holiday blues.
    I have no family to celebrate with and no friends either due to me living by myself thousands of kilometers from anyone I know. At work place there is a small celebration on the Christmas Eve, but that’s it.
    I have decided to go on a hiking trip for singles, just managed to find a last minute place. It will do me good.
    I wish you a wonderful Christmas, looking forward of seeing you in February when I finally get back to Europe 🙂

    1. Hi Jamie!
      Nice to hear from you 🙂 I’m sorry that you are feeling bit left out from the festivities! I have felt so jealous the last 2 years, following your adventure in New Zealand on the Facebook. It can be difficult to find new friends, especially if you are just on an assignment, knowing it’s only a while makes it all harder! I am happy you decided to go for a hiking trip over Christmas and new year. Which wonderful nature park did you choose this time? I am already looking forward to your fantastic pictures! And yes, also looking forward of you finally coming back to Europe 🙂

  6. Hi Hanna,

    Again fantastic article, touching on all the right strings. I find the most difficult thing to come out of my ‘stare at the fire alone’ tendency. Taking the active step of indeed doing something about it, instead of ‘feeling sorry/bad’ for your/my-self. ON the one hand, I do like Christmas and its magical atmosphere, with the darkness outside and the sparkling lights of the Christmas tree in house. But that ‘cozy’ feeling easily creates of reinforces that same barrier of emotional isolation.
    End that doesn’t end with the holidays. Going back to work after them with so many unsolved feelings can create an even harder problem sometimes…
    I’m not sure many men would resort to actively reach to many of the options you have proposed, except maybe the outside exercise and fresh air. We are particularly bad at going for the others :-).

    1. Hi Foggie, thank you for the roses, I am happy you enjoyed the article! Christmas truly is magical time, I enjoy it myself due to possibility to spend time with family and friends.
      I think it’s most important for people who are prone for this tendency, to get out there and stay active, especially during the holidays. Long walks outside in the beautiful nature enjoying the fresh air, perhaps on the mountains or the seaside, will do you wonders. Many people who are lonely also enjoy a company of a pet, although this is of course a huge responsibility and needs to be carefully considered. Pets give both emotional support and force you to go outside even in the worst weather.
      It is true there is a stigma for men getting massages and enjoying aroma therapy, but on the other hand, in the privacy of your own home, nobody knows if you secretly take aromatic baths or use an infuser or aroma candles to increase the atmosphere.
      I wish you a blessed Christmas time!

  7. Seriously awesome tips. Depression can be hard to deal with. I wish no one ever has to go through that phase. But i am sure aroma therapy, exercise, good diet can make the difference.

    1. Hi Harsh, thank you! Yes, depression effects the people who are suffering and all their loved ones. We need to understand the connection between body and mind before healing starts. A combination of the tips I have listed will work wonders!

  8. This was a good read. I find it more and more common that people are being open with depression and anxiety. This makes me happy to know my friends and family know they can count on me.
    I wish depression and anxiety didn’t have a negative connotation attached to it – its not in our control, much like being a diabetic.

    1. Hi Nicki,
      I am happy you enjoyed my post. You are right about there being a stigma when it comes to depression and anxiety. We have to learn to be more tolerant and understanding towards people who suffer from mental health problems. This will help people to come forward and not suffer alone in silence.

  9. What a great post!!! I love your advice and i like your beautiful photos… I absolutely agree with you and will show this article to few of my friends who suffer from the holiday blues. Thanks for sharing 🙂

  10. Going through depression and anxiety can be very diffucult! This a great post and helpful to remind people the important things in life. Take care of ourselves is one of them.

    1. Hi Joi, thank you for your lovely comment. Going through depression and anxiety during holiday times can be really hard and I am hoping my post will help as many as possible!

  11. Hey Hanna,

    I recently have been dealing with two vehicles that are breaking down at the same time! I live near Chicago in the US and the cold is making one of my vehicles not start and the other one well, I just spent a week’s pay to get fixed and now it is going to the junkyard today for a blown head gasket 🙁

    So I am totally in depression mode right now but I am looking at the brighter side of things as my wife just got a loan for a new car. It will be tough paying for it but at least my family will have a reliable vehicle again!

    I love Christmas but when it the cold breaks my cars down it gets me upset in a big way. I’m going to try out a few things you have posted here as the list is indeed a great motivator.

    I like the idea of a good massage and spending time talking my problems out with a friend. It’s pretty cold out so I won’t be doing any outdoor activities 🙂

    I think Aroma therapy sound interesting as you have described it. I don’t think I will be telling my friends about that experience being the big burly guy and all.

    This is a great post it really turned my mood around just reading and responding to it!

    1. Hi David,
      I am sorry to hear about your troubles. A lot of the times a chain event of things combined with economical worries can get us set on a downwards spiral! I am happy your wife got a loan approved, at least you will have a working vehicle!
      I am happy to hear that you found something positive in my post 🙂 The massage is always great way to relax and some time talking with a good friend, let it be outside or in the bar, does wonders to lift the dark clouds. You secret is safe with me, I know someone who will never in a million years admit to his friends that he LOVES aromatherapy baths 😉
      P.S. I am originally from Finland and absolutely adore snow and cold! I especially miss skiing.

  12. I am happy I browsef and found this other article for my exact problem. I separated from my wife who has new guy now. We’ve a 5 year old daughter I see every second week. This is not enough and I’m terribly depressed because of it. Holidays are coming and I won’t see her as I agreed her going abroad with my ex and the new guy. I always loved holidays but this year I’ll be alone and can’t face it. I need to work or something to get through. I’ll try this you give good tips. Thank you

    1. Michael, I am so sorry to hear about your breakup. They can be hard on people and when children are involved it’s heartbreaking. I know you must be missing your daughter terribly and facing the holidays without must be painful. Try my tips, but please try to find someone to talk to and there will for sure be a place for strangers to get together at Christmas in your vicinity. I have also send you an email, please feel free to write me back at any time or not if you so choose. *Hug*

  13. Hi Hanna,
    wonderful that you have chosen to highlight this important topic! So many people commit suicide during the holiday season, because they get depressed and anxious while everyone else is celebrating.

    Unfortunately nobody wants to talk about it, because they rather brush ugly things under the carpet. This article is full of wonderful information and I’ll try to spread it as much as possible,

    1. Hi Marie,
      thank you for your comment. Yes, it seems like this issue is almost a taboo! So many people are suffering from holiday depression and anxiety, but nobody wants to talk about it. I am happy you have found my article useful, thank you for sharing it!

  14. This is fantastic advice. I too have suffered from depression which was brought on my anxiety and I can relate to this article a lot.

    1. Exercise and fresh air: This is very true, I can vouch for the good effect this has. I call it soul-food. It’s good for the soul.

    2. Power of massage: Excellent, you can’t beat a good massage for a feel-good factor.

    3. Meditation and relaxation: Wonderful way to help with anxiety-relief and sleep deprivation. It works for me.

    4. I have to admit to not being party to this method, but it sounds wonderful.

    5. Happiness: The key to it all. We forget sometimes, the simple things that can make us happy. Like you say, reading a good book, or going for a walk. I made a life-choice about 7 years ago and I haven’t looked back.

    One thing I would say, we should focus more on ourselves sometimes instead of trying to make others happy, that includes family. Don’t you think?

    1. Hi Craig, I am happy you enjoyed my article! So many people have suffered from anxiety or depression at some point in time, this is the reason why I wrote my article. Thank you for sharing your thoughts in my recommended methods, I really appreciate it! Every person responds to different stimulation, the best thing to do is to try out everything and see what works best for you personally. I personally find exercise and aromatherapy the best ways to lift the mood! However trying to maintain a positive attitude and actually taking some time for ourselves are keys for happier life!

  15. Hi Hanna
    Everything you write is true. Going outside for a walk in the forest or to the beach helps you thinking positively. It is very good way to relax and get negative thoughs to go away with wind or waves.
    If I know someone who is lonely, I go and visit her/him and take for a walk. I she/he is far away I at least phone to her/him and listen what she/he says.
    I think you are very clever person. You know how to get up from the depression.
    I hope you everything good in your life. Thanks you are there for me and other people.

    1. Hi Inka, walking outside is such a good way of clearing the head! It’s one of my favorite methods to get rid of bad mood or anxiety. Standing by the windy sea shore is one of the things I love most in life. Listening to the waves and the seagulls.
      You are you right, company of a beloved friend or family members makes all the difference in the world when someone is depressed! It shows them someone cares and this really helps, as people who suffer from depression often feel truly alone!
      You are welcome, I know what depression feels like, so anything I can do to help others is my goal.

  16. Hi Hanna, this article has a lot of wonderful information and is a must read for anyone suffering from depression and anxiety or knowing someone who is depressed. Thank you for highlighting this incredibly important issue!
    I whole heartedly agree that it is important to take care of oneself during the holidays. Long walks outside, scented candles, baths and massages combined with good food and meditation are definitely a way to go!

    1. Hi Diana, I am happy you also enjoyed this article! The issue is important and should be highlighted before each holiday season! The methods are all effective, but some people will respond to ones more than others. Thank you for sharing what works for you, I really like hearing this from others.

  17. Personally I love Christmas and the Holiday season, seeing my kids eyes lit up like they only do that time of year is the best feeling in the world.
    I feel for people that struggle this time of year. But I can definitely see how things can get overwhelming, how the loss of a person you love can really bring you down during the holidays.
    You give some great advice in this article. I think if you do something you truly love, spoil yourself (that massage sounds great 🙂 and choose happiness like you say, the holiday season might turn out to be a good one after all.

    1. Hi Vicky, most of us love the holidays, but we shouldn’t forget that not everyone is so luck to share this special time with loved ones or is simply too depressed to enjoy the festivities. Thank you for agreeing with my advice, sometimes just spoiling yourself is the right thing to do. Choosing happiness is something we must all do daily, some naturally, for others it’s a learning process.

  18. Wow, Hanna!
    You did again! Great post! Yes, we have to wake up all our senses with a couple of things that you suggest! Personally, I prefer positive thinking and aromatherapy! Yoga is something that I have to give it a try as soon as possible! When I find some time I will let you know! Until then, let’s try to celebrate with family and friends and leave depression behind!
    Best wishes,

    1. Hi Rebecca, I am happy you enjoyed my post 🙂 Everyone has their own favorites for things that make them feel better! I also really love aromatherapy, scents are really important for my moods. Family and friends can be a source of happiness, we only have to let them.

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